Originally Posted by
RanRan79
Checking in during a break from early morning cooking for the holiday, had no intention of joining in until I saw this.
No. Just no.
They did not endure the same thing. While I think most of us would agree that the dynamic between Diana and Gordy had an abusive element, much of that was born out of his idea that if he pushed her to her limits, she would be big. That meant being critical of her [[which he likely thought was constructive), not allowing her time to rest, and he did indeed alienate her from many of her peers, Florence and Mary in particular. He was harsh, and yes, abusive at times, but there is no doubt that there was no bigger cheerleader for Diana than Berry Gordy. He praised her publicly and privately. Yes, he cheated on her, but apparently, so did she. For all his negatives, Gordy was an overall positive influence in Diana's life. I'm sure she'd be the first to say so. He wanted the best for her, even if he had ridiculous and sometimes antiquated ways of going about it.
That is totally different than the experience Mary Wilson, and countless other women in her position, experienced. Diana was never beaten down verbally to the point that she felt she was worthless [[to the contrary, by all accounts). Diana was never beaten physically by Gordy the way Mary was beaten by Pedro. Diana never had a child tell her that she looked like a monster after having been beaten by his father. Diana never feared death at the hands of Gordy the way Mary feared it at the hands of Pedro.
There is no comparison and your love for Diana Ross should never be such that you would even go there in order to make her look good. If Gordy and Pedro are the same, then you have to say Diana is the same as Pedro, taking into account the verbal abuse she's apparently inflicted upon people over the course of time, including her singing partners, and I have a feeling you wouldn't dare go there, nor should you.
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