Originally Posted by
RanRan79
Diana Ross' gender is a huge part of her story, including the fact that a lot of the grief she gets for being "difficult" or a "diva" or "controlling" or just generally "not nice" is tied to her vagina, because men in the industry are simply not judged by the same standards. Sure, there are men who get labeled as difficult when they don't show up on time or are drunk or stoned. And obviously the business is full of men who have reps for not being the nicest people. But when Diana takes charge of her career, when she says she wants it this way and not that, when she refuses to settle for what she may think of as "any old thing", she's a bitch. How dare she boss people around. And let's not talk about how highly people think of David Ruffin, Eddie Kendricks, and Marvin Gaye, even though one was a woman beater, one wasn't paying his child support, and the other was having sex with an underage girl knowingly. You could have conversations about those three for days without anyone mentioning any of that. But Diana had spats with her singing partners and various other females during her youth, not to mention she had the gall to enter into a romantic relationship with her boss, a single man. And for some folks there is no conversation about Diana Ross unless you include this negative stuff. That anybody would think none of this has to do with her gender is naive at best, and a flat out liar at worst.
We all want the world to be a better place, but it'll never get there if people pretend we don't have real time problems. Just because you aren't a racist/sexist/xenophobe/otherphobes/otherists does not mean someone else isn't.
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