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She's great. She'll want to send feedback to a vendor via e-mail and since I am a Communications major, she'll insist that I write the note. She won't know exactly what she wants to say, but she'll know what she doesn't want me to say. So as I'm composing, she'll tell me to change something because she doesn't like it the way that I wrote it.
"What should it say, sweetheart?", says Jerry.
"Something else", says my sweetheart.
It will literally take 30 minutes to compose a three-sentence note. She'll stare at it like a lawyer reading a complex contract and every time I attempt to hit "send", I'll hear it:
"Don't do that." After five minutes with no revisions [[usually about the time that it takes me to play a game of Spider Solitaire on the computer), I'll send it anyway and hope that all's well. Then I get the dirty looks when I notice three seconds later, that I made a typo.
It's just the same old song...
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Haha! I see. "Take a letter please, Jerry..."
I'd be tougher, but with a smile.
"Look lady, just make some notes of what you want to say. We can then work them around together"
"I can't...and you're so much better..."
"Then don't be so lazy, and at least try....":)
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That won't happen. We have our defined roles and mine is to do what she tells me to do. And, not to brag, but I'm pretty good at that.
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Well, we all need to balance things out as best we can....
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If I was write a screenplay loosely based on my life, it would be something like this:
Jerry, enters from outside and plops down on the couch. He grabs the remote control, turns on the television without even paying attention to what he's doing. With a shrug of his shoulders, he tosses the remote onto the couch beside him.
Jerry: Boo Boo! I'm home!
Boo Boo: Blah blah blah. Blah blah blah.
Jerry: Okay. What's for dinner?
Boo Boo: Blah blah blah. Blah blah blah.
Jerry: Sounds great. When will it be ready.
Boo Boo: Blah blah blah. Blah blah blah. Blah blah blah?
Jerry: Sure. What size do you want? Two liters or one?
Boo Boo: Blah blah blah. Blah blah blah.
Jerry: I'll be back in a little bit.
Somehow, I don't think that's going to win the Oscar for best original screenplay...
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It could win best Animated Feature.....
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It would have great reviews from married men. Married women? Well, I just don't see them letting their husbands watch it.
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I can imagine that scenario would not be exclusive to married couples, and could well apply to anyone living with someone else.
I'm not sure that one partner could stop the other from watching, but they may well not like it at all. Unless, of course, they have a sense of humour and don't take it too seriously....
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How is it with you and yours? It's there a communication gap or are you in that rare relationship where it's easy to stop what you're doing because you or your partner cares enough about what's being said? It's really easy to get used to each other and that is sometimes misunderstood to be a lack of caring.
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After all these years, we do slip into some of the routines without a word...but sometimes those routines need to be changed. Some of them were once good, but over time have become ineffective, due to changing circumstances.
We also find that, while we may be in the same residence, each can be completely absorbed in different thoughts, or on their own computer.
The downside is that changing routines or discussing ideas after a significant portion of a century together can sometimes require a formal conference. Attempts at that are often conducted while both of us are engaged in our own personal routines, and sometimes temporarily out of sight or earshot.
The conversation will then run on the lines of....
"How long are you going to be up there in the attic?"
Slight pause.
"Sorry...?"
"I SAID.....how LONG are you going to BE, up THERE, in the ATTIC???"
There is generally a short pause, followed by a somewhat puzzled voice responding...
"I'm in the ATTIC...."
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Hah!! So it's not just me. I often will become quite absorbed in something and she'll say something when I'm not prepared to hear it. Half of her statement/question will be spoken before I'll know that she is addressing me. So I piece together what it sounded like order to put it into context of what I actually heard. Sometimes it'll make sense, sometimes not. If not, I'll ask her to repeat it. Sometimes I'm ready to hear by the second time that she'll say it...
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That's it, exactly. Even though you've already mentioned that your hearing is not 100%, that's how it goes here and, for all I know, everywhere else.
There is quite some potential for irritation in those exchanges, if the one who made the first statement is affronted, and feels they are not receiving their due attention.
It also isn't so great for the other, dealing with a feeling of being distracted, but then obliged to trail around, enquiring "Now, what you just said then, was it......etc., etc.....?."
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I'd say that it was a "guy thing", but it happens with her as well. And I'd swear that sometimes she'll wait until I'm refocused on what I was doing before she'll start up again. For example, I'll take off my headphones to see what she wanted but she'll be deep in thought on something. I'll wait 15-30 seconds to put them back on again and no less than five seconds later, she'll start talking again. She insists that she doesn't do this on purpose. If I'm expecting a conversation, I can give my undivided attention but it's kind of a "gotcha" type of exchange that goes on.
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Here, I ask something [[admittedly, sometimes walking around) get what I take to be the answer, and then move on.
As I move out of earshot, more details are forthcoming, so I either have to disregard the sound...or return to undertand what is being said. It's like a tap, that starts to flow shortly after I think I've turned it off :)
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I'm sure that dying plays on many stereos in many residences. I could have written it word for word...
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One good thing to be said for talking to yourself is that you get the right answers.
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Shhhhh not so loud,if voice reads this i'll never win another argument.
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Voice know all the answers. Just doesn't understand all your questions....
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Voice is too smart for his own good.
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And Voice would say you're far too dumb for your own bad....
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And now I'm becoming too confused for my own mental well-being...
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I'm not at all confused about your mental well-being......
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Jerry,you're fine i'm always confused or is it refused i get em mixed up anyhow you're cool,you and west are like two super analist when i read some of your post i feel like debatng with voice or reading the front page of the newspaper.
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You'd have more fun reading the back page of the newspaper, than some of our posts!
Don't forget - although we don't get out so much these days, we're allowed to have visitors here. You can come in, relax and have fun. Don't let the series of six locked doors put you off.
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Just know that one of the doors is unlocked. If you decide to try to find it and don't pick the correct door for the first time, then all the doors will be locked forever. Open it and enter at your own reward or risk. The wise choice would be to wait where you are. Perhaps someone will eventually come for you.
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I'm scared I'll get the door with the tiger behind it.
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That will be the one with the name Supremes over it. Don't open it, as you may lose the thread......
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If you pick that door, just tell the tiger that Diana is in the corner. This is important because the room is round. When the tiger jumps in to find his mistress, he'll be confused for hours as to how to find her and you can go through the door.
Caveat: Just be aware that this means that you will have no option but to go enter the door lest you spend the rest of your days with a confused Diana Ross fan [[which most of them apparently are). Should the tiger ever figure out how you lured him into the room, the claws will come out and you will see his deadly teeth.
And after reading some of the posts around here, I can tell you that when her fans flash those teeth and bear those claws, they fully intend to use them to deadly effect.
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So....just let the nice lady on reception arrange to bring you through.
You might need her to let you out again, afterwards......
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Down the rabbit hole... "Abandon all hope, ye who enter here" could be the Soulful Detroit motto.
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"GATHER all hope, ye who enter here" - !
After all, we're the sane ones, sequestered from the rest of the world who have all escaped from an asylum....
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I like your second sentence as our message board motto now...
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We may not be mad, but are we normal? What is "normality"?
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While we are all going about, just being ourselves, normality is what others in general perceive as being normal.
The reality just became a whole lot abnormal....:confused:
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I don't think I've ever met anyone who is completely normal.
The subject of Midnight Johnny's show next week is Van McCoy. I immediately thought, "Giving Up - Gladys Knight & the Pips [[Maxx)". Do you automatically remember the record label? Maybe most people on SDF do, but not the casual record buyer. Which means what is normal on this site would be abnormal to the outside world.
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Probably the only really normal human beings are those in the womb, and a dead body awaiting final service.
If there is some passing mutual interest in whatever subject keenly interests a fan, then automatically remembering the relevant record label is likely to be regarded by a casual bystander as a sign of great interest on the part of the fan, combined with a memory strong on association.
The less the interest felt by the casual bystander, and the more repetitive and enthusiastic the behaviour displayed by the fan, the more the definitions of normal and abnormal become mutually blurred.
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Do you remember the labels, wgb?
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I do, in the order of song title, artist and label...much in the manner that our American friends may say Buckingham Palace, London, England.
I can then, but with some thought, rearrange the order, going first for artist, and then their selected recordings, followed by label[[s)
Or label first, but which is trickier.......
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I don't think I could arrange even the Supremes' singles in order of release date. In the late 60s/early 70s, the manager of my local record shop was DJ Terry Jones, and he knew all the TMG numbers by heart.
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I can do runs by titles, but not total sequences from any artist. I'm generally guided by association of other events at the time certain titles were released.
Yes, there are those who do know the TMG numbers from memory. Probably, those who have or had all of them in their possession..which I did not.....