I'M SERIOUS.....[stop that laughing]...!
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I'M SERIOUS.....[stop that laughing]...!
Is the hooch mist you mentioned beginning to work?
Ummm... Which one of them are you asking..?
Both of them, just to get their individual views.
Good luck. It appears that they can't agree on much.
It's like I'm back in the day, sat between two stereo speakers.
Now, in listening to arr&bee and Voice, one of those speakers is right..while the other could be to the left, or the right.:rolleyes:
There's a difference between different sounds coming from each speaker for the same song and two different songs playing from each. When they start talking to each other, the left and right sides of my brain start disagreeing with whose right and the next thing I know, I've got a little version of VOICE all to myself.
[NO YOU DON'T!!! STOP IT!!]
I'm now starting to hear voices myself.....
Well, this voice is telling you that it snowed this morning in NE Ohio!!
I was wondering how it was going.
Disregarding previous snowfall this winter [[as if you ever could...), is snow at this time of year a usual occurrence there?
It's not unusual. It is kind of like what we call "Indian Summer", which is sort of the last gasp of the previous season before the weather becomes truly seasonal. It'll be off and on cold and mild before Spring quietly settles down, takes off her coat and stays for a while.
A little chillier here at nights [[but milder most nights over the winter) - otherwise, Spring is definitely here.
Easter late this year, too.
There is activity in the bird world. There is a blue tit around [[you might call it a chickadee, or titmouse?), must be male, which has seen its reflection in our large windows. Flutters up and down, tapping the glass, thinking it spies a rival. Been doing that for about 10 days. Incredibly energetic birds. Not dead yet, so must be eating something at the same time......
"Blue tit" sounds like something from an adult film with naked zombies in it. And "titmouse" makes me blush for mostly the same reason.
I'm not sure what you'll make of 'Great Tit','Bearded Tit', ' Crested Tit', 'Coal Tit','Marsh Tit,' 'Long-Tailed Tit' and 'Willow Tit', then.....:)
[[Jerry rushes to cover up his computer screen before Mrs. Oz walks in, looks over his shoulder, and asks what exactly he's reading on the SDF... If he answers that "he's talking about birds", she'll mistake it for the British colloquialism and suggest that she knew that already, sealing his fate...)
Mrs Oz must be an owl. A very wise bird.
It would have been so very much worse had Mrs Oz looked over Jerry's shoulder, to discover Jerry was talking about 'blackcock' on SDF.......
Oh man, I am dead... I'm convinced that she reads my mind as it is, so she will put me on the hot seat for sure after that last post.
Why Jerry, you're quite safe. It has never happened! Of course, if Mrs Oz can really read your mind, then only you and she really know...
And I've just read your post on the Vegan thread. Pickled pig's feet. Never heard of them before but, right now, oh how my own mind really doesn't like the sound of THOSE.....:[[
Actually west,pickled pig's feet are tasty..have you ever had hog's brains and eggs..oh and to stay on subject snow is coming again.
The very time arr&bee stays on subject, he wants to tell us about more snow....:rolleyes:
It's turned a lot colder in London. I don't think winter's quite done yet.
Let's look forward and be a bit positive. It's been generally lovely sunshine here on the coast, although cooler in the last few evenings [[unsurprising, as it's still March), so I'd call it a nippy, at times, start to Spring....
We are expecting snow today in central Ohio as well.
As you said in #411, it's not unusual. Most of the snow has got to be behind you. Figuratively speaking, of course....:)
It didn't phase me at its worst. It's not going to phase me as it breathes its last breath. I'm just happy to have made it for another day here on planet Earth.
Seems like it's an anxious feat of endurance , living from day to day over there in Oz Ville.....
Only at work, which seems to get crazier by the day. And at home, I guess. I have what I believe to be an excellent entrepreneurial opportunity and my wife is scared for me to take it. That he's had me stressed out more than the weather.
Divulge......
I'm going through my mid-life crisis, I guess. I hate my job. I dislike my condo and neighbors. My parents are aging. And I have maybe one chance to try to do something more in my life than I have done every day for the last 24 years. I won't do it without her support, though. And every time I try to talk about it, she looks at me as if she doesn't recognize me, let alone bless or outright reject the endeavor. We talk about everything, but she won't talk about this. It's like she does not believe me when I suggest that my job is sucking my spirit like a tick sucks blood.
Jerry, in your posts there is sometimes an undertow in your responses, which occasionally forms the impression in my mind that you could be just a little depressed. If not that, then at least unfulfilled.
If so, I bet there is no-one here on SDF who hasn't felt depressed at some time. I certainly have, and I did twelve one-hour sessions with a counsellor - but that's a side story.
I get the feeling that, like a singer straining at the top of their vocal range, your job often has you straining at the top of your endurance. The job should be well within your capability, but you feel out of your comfort zone.
Time to be off to bed for me, so to be continued. Am I on the right lines here.....?
Perhaps. I am the only person in my position at work who has prior experience or a degree. I mentored every one of my peers and I am proud of their success in moving from hourly employees to management. However, I feel stuck. I'm convinced that not only is the job within my capabilities, it's actually beneath me.
I am as credentialed and much more experienced than my manager, who at times makes decisions that make the workplace tense to the point of being intolerable. I am finding it harder to shrug my shoulders and encourage others to let these decisions go. I am the guy that everybody else feels comfortable to listen to their grievances - both from work and from home.
The constant complaining has convinced me that I am not where I want to be professionally or away from work. I am far from depressed, I can assure you. But I am also far from happy. I won't create a bucket list because I don't expect to have the opportunity to fulfill it.
As I said before, it's just a mid-life crisis...
Hey Jerry this is about as serious as I get,when we hit about fifty we go through a stage when we feel not trapped but wanting to do something else with our life,not angry at anyone but wanting to just get away from the day to day humdrum of our life at that point,I hope this will pass and you'll be ok.
It's passing already. I woke up this morning feeling much less gloomy. It bubbled up in a bit of frustration, but I've got a great support network.
Don't take this as a reason to hit the hooch, but you and WGB are part of it. God bless you, amigo.
[[And now, back to the thread...)
Glad to hear the mood passed, Jerry [[they do...) but did you have anything more to share on the entrepreneurial opportunity you mentioned, and Mrs Oz's unsurety about it? [[I think we touched on it a little while back..)
It sounds more interesting than 'simply' a mid-life crisis.....
She said that she's concerned that rather than running toward something that I'm truly interested in, she thought that I was grabbing at the first lifeline to pull me away from what I have. She'd like me to spend more time validating this opportunity and researching others that might interest me. Actually, I've done plenty of research and already turned down another one that was probably more lucrative [[long term) than this one.
On one hand, I appreciate her being tentative. It's a huge step and it's not just my future that we're dealing with. I love my wife dearly and would never want her to be stressed over uncertainty of our affairs. On the other hand, my hands are now pretty much tied. In the chance that the venture failed, it would probably be a big problem in our relationship. Not something that we couldn't overcome, but I don't want there to be any unspoken "I told you so"s, either real or imagined.
Like it or not, I'm 90% resigned to the fact that toiling in the salt mines is my lot in life and so long as it's putting food on the table and a roof overhead, I'll eventually count it as a blessing.
My immediate thought is : does your wife work, and what would you say if she presented you with the same scenario?
Your final para is realistic and makes perfect sense, but also suppresses the possibility of many hopes and plans. [[I'm concentrating on that 'other' 10% now!) .
You've not gone into detail, but I guess the current new opportunity, and also the previous one, would have required you giving up your current job. [[if your wife were now to chime in 'and all he's worked for in a quarter century!' , then I'd just have to agree with her regarding that basic fact :))
For the next step, and because I believe there should indeed be one [[don't tell your wife...)is it possible for you to find a new outlet and expression for Jerry O. in any free time you have, while you continue 'putting food on the table, and a roof overhead' with your established job- ?
I don't get the impression you are a chancer or a gambler by nature, and are conservative, although I'd say you were also definitely idealistic, with a high sense of values. If you don't have a vision or a hope to carry every day, your heart won't fully be in what you do that day, and you won't function as well as you could.
You perceive very well. One curious thing though, is she encourages me to quit, even before finding a new job. Because of that, I have to consider her concerns to be legitimate and not based on the lack of income from giving up my current job. We've saved enough to get by for the next 10 years with no income, but if we're to realize some of our goals, we'll need more loot. And I have goals.
Of course, the fact that I have a woman who cares enough about me to say "quit and we'll find a way" just reinforces the fact that I can't do that. I'd be less of a man to be unemployed without a plan. At least in my eyes...
I agree with that.
Mrs Oz won't want to see you enduring unhappiness simply for financial gain, if it is not absolutely essential for you to continue with it. She'll be unhappy, if you're unhappy.
That said, it does seem to make much better sense to have something better to pursue, than simply stop something which isn't working so well for you. In that case, there may become just another void to be experienced, but of a different kind.
I often feel that activity and movement is best wherever possible, while I mull over ideas.
Is the new opportunity a radically different activity from that in your career to date? If income is not so essential at the outset, does Mrs Oz feel you would be happy with it, or is she simply concerned that you may not....
She thinks that I should devote months or years to figuring out what I want to do. I simply saw what opportunities were out there, whittled down the list and selected the most attractive of them. The franchise that I am interested in provides event planners with DJs, photographers, and videographers. My function would be to coordinate and direct, not to do any of the services. Since I am already an operations manager with more than passing interest in all three areas, I found it to be intriguing.
I would work mostly from home and do mostly what I do best: manage people. The company has 40 years of experience and glowing referrals by its franchisees. To be honest, I can find nothing about it that I do not feel myself to love. But, then there is the security of the salt mines where I have had no raises or promotions for seven years and we work constantly under the threat that our jobs can be outsourced if someone can do it cheaper. I'm swimming backwards when I would be more than happy to simply tread water.
Whatever we do as individuals doesn't really make us buzz unless we have a natural feel for it. It sounds as if you're already half way to taking on the new opportunity.
I recall you mentioning it before, and it seems you contribute to SDF during breaks in your working hours. I'm self employed, so am working to my own version of a work standard to be maintained, but it's different when one is employed. He who pays the piper, etc....
It's not everyone who can express themselves articulately, and compose to a high standard, which is easily understood. Your posts rarely, if ever, contain spelling errors. You can compose both at length and at speed, and quickly respond to different subjects. And your words are read on thousands of occasions by people who do not actively respond. You have an audience.
I feel that scenario is illuminating yet another path for you, away from 'the salt mines' and towards tomorrow......